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Refusal is act of resistance and self-care. How to say 'no' without hurting people

Steve Jobs is far from a hero of mine, but he did get a few things right.

At a developers conference in 1997, he explained:

“People think focus means saying ‘yes’ to the thing you've got to focus on. But that's not what it means at all. Focusing is about saying ‘no,‘ You’ve got to say ‘no, no, no’ and when you say ‘no,’ you piss off people.”

Being self-emp…